It’s that time of year again…summer! More specifically, the Fourth of July. It is when families gather together to enjoy time grilling, boating, fishing, or simply soaking in the summer sun – or rain But what does this have to do with leadership, and the usual things I write about? Well, let me explain…
When families get together, things can get crazy! You know what I’m talking about. When you’re in that kitchen built for two with half dozen other women in your family clamoring to help, and the men are all consuming beers well beyond the recommended limit, sometimes you just want to scream, “EVERYONE OUT! I GOT THIS!” Here is the question…what does it take for us to not lose our shit?
It’s Self-Awareness and Emotional Intelligence! Without self-awareness and the ability to control your emotions, you really are likely to totally lose your shit. This holds true in both your personal life and your professional life. You have to be able to check yourself before you wreck yourself. It’s your self-awareness and emotional intelligence that are going to enable you to do so.
Use it to remind yourself that the intentions of all those women in the kitchen, and in some weird way even those guys drinking beers, come from a place of love. Everyone wants to help, and those guys, well….. they’re certainly all just reveling in their beautiful family. Let everyone help! Let everyone express their joy, appreciation, and gratitude for the opportunity to spend time together! It’s your self-awareness and emotional intelligence that are going to put you in a position to enjoy it and not lose it.
All jokes and family shenanigans aside, summer celebrations really can be a true test of your patience, but it’s also a time to appreciate the relationships, memories, and love that everyone shares.
You’re a leader in your professional life, but are you also a leader in your personal life? How do you demonstrate quality leadership with your family? And getting even deeper, how does your family dynamic influence your leadership?
Did you know that early family experiences and behaviors often re-emerge in your leadership style? Family dynamics are your first experience with team management. Family dynamics will affect how you respond to pressure, manage when a situation gets heated, and even influence how you communicate.
Your family experience has a direct effect on your relationship with your team. Pay attention to your style of communication. Is it direct or indirect? Are you a micromanager, or do you empower your team to be independent? Do you encourage debate and open discussion to explore ideas, or do you shut people down? Do you address conflict head-on, or do you avoid it?
If you are open and willing to take a deeper dive into understanding your leadership style and willing to continue learning and growing, I encourage you to pay attention to how you interact with your family. It certainly will provide a window into your leadership soul and teach you what you have yet to learn about yourself.
I had 13 people at my cottage for the Fourth of July weekend and I surprisingly managed to keep my shit together. I delegated tasks, allowed people to help, most likely breaking the fire code for my kitchen, and allowed people to celebrate. I felt love, kindness, and compassion. I remained patient and kept the perspective that everyone just wanted to be part of it all. Connection is the main element of the human condition.
I would love to hear about your July 4th celebrations, family shenanigans, and all. Reach out!
Happy Fourth of July!! It’s going to be a great summer.