When was the last time you reflected on your life? Have you checked in with yourself lately to evaluate where you are on your soul’s journey? If you are not having fun in life or feeling a sense of inner peace, you have lost your way and lost the connection to your soul.
So, how do you know? How do you know if you need to reconnect with your soul? How do you know if inner peace is not a part of the fabric of your being?
Here are four simple questions to ask yourself:
- Have you stopped singing?
- Have you stopped dancing?
- Have you stopped telling stories?
- Are you uncomfortable being silent?
If you have answered yes to any of these, it’s time to reawaken your soul and start to enjoy the ride!
Here are four things I have learned on my journey that have cast a shadow on my soul and prevented me from singing, dancing, telling stories, and enjoying the silence:
We are addicted to perfection.
None of us are perfect, nor will we ever be, so why do we strive so hard to achieve perfection? It’s because being perfect distracts us from vulnerability. Vulnerability makes us uncomfortable because it removes the masks we hide behind and lets us be seen; genuinely seen in our raw imperfections.
As we continuously strive for perfection, we numb our creativity, our curiosity, and our internal free spirit. By so desperately seeking perfection and remaining so focused on the outcome, we forget to enjoy the journey. We forget that we can be playful. As humans, we are meant to make mistakes. It’s not a secret that the more mistakes we make, the more we learn about life and become more of who we really are. Allow yourself to be perfectly imperfect and see how it unleashes your true potential.
We are driven by intensity.
When life feels calm or we find ourselves in a place of peaceful contentment, we mistakenly label it as boring and unexciting, We may even go as far as to say out loud, “Something bad is going to happen, life is too quiet!” If there is no drama, we will create it. We will purposefully heighten the intensity in our lives because we are so uncomfortable with the sweet sense of contentment, the sound of silence, and the feeling of peace and satisfaction.
We literally cannot tolerate the things we say we desire. Tune into your life, and when things are quiet, learn to sit and enjoy the peace and harmony. It comes with the intention to help you reflect, relax, and refocus.
We need to know.
As a culture, we have become very uncomfortable with not knowing. We feel like when we are “in the know,” we have control. This could not be further from the truth. Needing to be “in the know” simply means you lack trust. Let go of the need to know and trust that things in your life are just as they are supposed to be.
Being “in the know” does not always enhance your life, but can inspire greater intensity, causing more drama, and leading to less control. It has a negative effect, placing a shadow and preventing your soul from shining. Let it go, set your spirit free, and let be what will be.
We are fixated on what is NOT working rather than what IS working.
If you take a step back from life you will quickly realize there is a lot more working in your life than not. This fixation brings us back to the need to be perfect. We love to focus on the negative first and believe that things will go wrong. I believe this simply means we have stopped dancing. We have stopped celebrating all the goodness in life.
When you remember to sing, dance, tell stories, and sit in silence, you will diminish your need for perfection, reduce the intensity in your life, become comfortable with not knowing, and be able to see all of the things in your life that are beautiful and abundant.